Amazingly, it was only recently that I got up the courage to wear tights or pantyhose for a full day at work! Previously, so afraid of having anything cutting across my waist or putting undue pressure on areas that couldn’t take it, I wore thigh highs. These usually worked fine, but are not really feasible under anything very clingy. Otherwise you can see a line on your leg, and heaven forbid, whatever part of your body spills over the top of the thigh high bulges out. I fondly call this the ‘mutton chop’ look. Eh.
Finding hose that do not have a control top is not easy. Apparently every woman in American wants to be ‘held in’ by a control top. I want the oppposite! Donna Karan and Calvin Klein has a nice line called “The Nudes” but they are uber sheer, and for me, uber fragile. They are also sort of pricey at $20 a pop.
i did have some luck with L’eggs brand. I tried No nonsense, but found the colors a bit sallow on me. Hanes has a nice one without a control top, but the color (travel buff) is very pale. I need something that doesn’t make my legs look like I’m wearing a nurses uniform.
For tights, I like the Ann Taylor Loft brand.
Suggestions? Any brands that work well on you?
Ok, so admittedly it took me a long time to find a pair of jeans that would work well with my ilesotomy. The unfortunate low-rise trend caused me all sorts of issues, since my ileostomy is placed fairly high on my abdomen. I know some people don’t have issues with their pouches appearing well above the waist line, but I seem to be rather…um…prolific in my output and really don’t care for the pouch expanding above tight pants, making my belly look lopsidedly pregnant.
I basically wrote of jeans for the longest time. And those I wore were either uncomfortable or so baggy to give me a high waist line that they did nothing to flatter my figure. And then one day the clouds parted and I heard angels sing and I found the right jeans for me. The ones that work for me are Ralph Lauren jeans. Just the plain old Lauren jeans they have at Macy’s, not the uber expensive type.
And now, thanks to some backlash over the low rise phenomenon, and the realization that women above the age of 15 have more success avoiding the ‘muffin top’ by having pants with a higher waistline that holds them in, there are many more options available! Another angel-singing moment for me was finding Levi’s 512 Perfectly Slimming Jeans. These jeans are awesome! I live in them when I’m not at work. They are firm enough that they hold my appliance in, and yet have enough stretch that they are very comfortable. They also look really sharp. I realize it is still a bit high for a waistband, but I usually don’t tuck on my outer top (I always wear a tank underneath and tuck that in though…it helps compress everything AND helps me avoid flashing my appliance to the world when I pick up my son).
Seriously, if you are looking for jeans, I highly recommend the 512’s.
It seems to me that the majority of information I’ve been able to find online about ostomies and clothing says one of two things: 1) You can still wear the same things you did before your surgery, or 2) Wear loose fitting, comfortable clothing.
I found the first statement to be false (I can’t wear tight, form-fitting dresses without me being totally self-conscious about the outline of my ileostomy), and the second statement to only be applicable to the time right after surgery. There is a happy medium and it is very possible to wear fashionable and body conscious clothing without feeling exposed. I’ve had my ileostomy since I was 26, and now am 38. It’s taken some time, but I have developed an eye for what will work best on me and am still learning new things and having ‘breakthrough’ moments, such as when I discovered the right pair of jeans!
Maybe those of us who have cracked the ostomy fashion code can share tips here? That’s my goal. Or, at the very least, I can chronicle such fascinating discoveries such as which pantyhose work best, for me at least. There really is such as thing as being ostomy chic, even though I know most of us would never use that label publically. So, why not talk about it here? Please join me.